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Wednesday, July 24, 2013

I was a high school virgin....and I'm glad

So.....way personal today. I've been mulling over whether or not I should post this. I usually don't get quite so personal in such a public forum. But it keeps coming back up in my mind.

I was a virgin in high school. And college. As a matter of fact, I've had sex with one person in my life and that happens to be the person I am married to.

I made the decision when I was 13 that I would "save myself." Now, at the time, there were religious reasons for this decision. But I am glad that I made that decision for so many reasons beyond religion.

1. I never had to worry about pregnancy. I keep seeing all these girls in my hometown who are having babies. I don't think it's the end of the world. And I believe that these young women can, and often do, become wonderful mothers. And I am sure that they love their children. But I do not envy their position in life. The changes that come to your body and your life, your thought processes, your responsibilities....I cannot imagine dealing with that at such a young age.  Besides an actual pregnancy, I never even had the thought enter my mind. After having pregnancy scares as a married, employed adult, I don't think I would have dealt well with one as a dependent minor.

2. I never had to worry about STDs. 'Nough said.

3. I didn't have to "sneak around." Really? I have to worry about good grades, college applications, concerts, social activities, not becoming a total social pariah, my responsibilities at home AND I want to add to that keeping up with what lie I'm telling to what person and "shh, my parents will hear"? I don't think so.

4. Stress less. It seems like there is so much stress around sex. When will I be "ready?" Should it be with this guy or not? When is it time? 5 dates? 3 months? 90 days? Should I be on birth control? What do my friends think? Since I made an actual decision that the answer is always no, I never had to worry about that question. Am I ready or not? The answer is no. Should it be him? The answer is no. After prom? The answer is no.

Also, I didn't keep it a secret. That seems pretty weird, but it's true. I don't mean I walked around wearing a "VIRGIN" t-shirt or introduce myself with "Hi, I'm not having sex with you" but I wasn't ashamed of it. It's a perfectly acceptable life-choice; I even think it's a commendable one. If someone asked me, I would tell them. And I kind of had a reputation as a good-girl, so it wasn't like it was a surprise.

According to the Office of Adolescent Health, 1511 girls aged 15-18 in Arkansas had a baby. That's about 2.5% of the total population. 8% of high school students said they had sex before they were 13. 13!! At 13 I was still a little sad about giving up my Barbie dolls to my sisters.

I think the teenage years are an awkward time. You are choosing between childhood and adulthood, and not really fitting in in either place. I'm glad that I made the decision that I did. If I had it to do over again, I would absolutely choose the same thing. Virgin and proud.

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Baby photography without the baby

I have this pile of baby hats just sitting....I want to list them for sale, but I've got to get the photography handled first.

Of course, ideally, I would photograph a baby hat ON a baby.

But since I don't have access to a baby...well, I'm working on some professional photography options, but we all know I'm not patient enough to wait on that.
There is always the photograph-it-flat option, which can look quite lovely...
And an many different prop options...
And of course baby dolls and stuffed animals
So, I guess I just have to decide the right kind of props for me...
Click on the photos to learn more about the lovely products pictured. And wish me luck!



Thursday, July 11, 2013

$12 + 20 minutes = 3 months of laundry detergent

So, my laundry detergent recipe is posted here.

I said it lasted a little over 3 months. Well, today is officially the end-date on that bottle of detergent. From the 1st load on March 12th to the last load tonight. And my clothes look and feel super clean and smell fresh. And, thanks to the scent crystals, spring garden-y.

Seriously, try it. Try it now.